The First Week Checklist
Just separated? The first 7 days are critical. This checklist tells you exactly what to do—one day at a time.
Why the First Week Matters
Courts often maintain the "status quo" established in the first weeks of separation. What you do (and document) now directly impacts your custody case later. Don't wing it—follow this checklist.
Secure Your Finances
- Open a separate bank account in your name only
- Screenshot all joint account balances
- Make a list of all credit cards and debts
- Note all automatic payments/subscriptions
💡 Pro Tip: Use a different bank than your joint accounts to avoid confusion.
Document Everything
- Photograph important documents (titles, deeds, insurance)
- Screenshot your parenting schedule/calendar
- Export text message threads (use an app if needed)
- Take photos of valuable shared property
💡 Pro Tip: Store copies in cloud storage AND email them to yourself.
Gather Critical Documents
- Birth certificates for all children
- Marriage certificate
- Last 2 years of tax returns
- Recent pay stubs (3 months)
- Health insurance cards
💡 Pro Tip: Make physical copies AND digital backups of everything.
Research Legal Options
- Find 3 family law attorneys in your area
- Check if you qualify for legal aid
- Research your state's custody laws
- Write down questions for attorney consultations
💡 Pro Tip: Most attorneys offer free 30-minute consultations. Use them.
Set Up Communication
- Create a dedicated email for co-parenting only
- Research co-parenting apps (OurFamilyWizard, TalkingParents)
- Set up a shared calendar for kid schedules
- Decide on your communication boundaries
💡 Pro Tip: Keep ALL communication in writing. Verbal agreements are worthless in court.
Protect Your Rights
- Document your current parenting involvement
- Take photos with your kids (timestamp matters)
- Note school pickups, activities, routines you handle
- Start an 'evidence journal' for important events
💡 Pro Tip: Courts care about the status quo. Document what you're already doing.
Plan Your Future
- Find temporary housing if needed
- Calculate your budget without joint income
- Identify your support network (family, friends)
- Schedule your first attorney consultation
💡 Pro Tip: You don't have to have everything figured out. Just take the first step.
Finished the Checklist? Here's What's Next.
You've taken control of your first week. Now let's tackle the bigger picture.